An Old Problem Comes Back.

[OnMyWay]

1 hour ago, Old55 said:

What would be in the best interest of your son?

 

I'm not seeing any upside for him to have a U.S. passport at this point in his life.  What would the passport be used for?  I can't think of a positive use for it and most likely there is a scheme involved. 

[Dave Hounddriver]

24 minutes ago, OnMyWay said:

 What would the passport be used for?

Seems quite likely she has another fish on the line and needs the passport to take the boy to the new fish's country.  That would be a good development for the boy in the long term.

Since Chris is not involved in the boy's life now, (through choice or pressure from the ex is his own business), then I suspect the only real problem would be if the boy is taken to the US and the new fish pushes the woman (and I'm sure it wouldn't take much pushing) into filing for child support. . . Uh Oh!

[chris49]

17 hours ago, Old55 said:

What would be in the best interest of your son?

 

Best interest does not apply right now.

At age 17 or sometime before he's 18 I would surrender the passport. As for the renewal, I'm playing hardball on that.

As for cases of child support being filed in the USA. That's actually a laugher, Joy still has her first marriage on file in the NSO, she would have to solve that first. My son is 7 years old. He would have to fulfill 4 years or residency in the USA holding full time employment, in order to sponsor his mother as a dependent.

[Snowy79]

I'm with Dave on this one. A leopard never changes it's spots. She has shown what she is capable of and from my reading she's more than capable of worse things in the future. Sadly men tend not to hold grudges even when they've been well and truly shafted. Imagine the damage she could do by getting to the USA, hitching up with another partner who might not be so keen on your Son and then hits you with maintenance payments. He may be your Son but from experience of having an Ex wife from England any money will be going to her needs not the child's, she'll be turning him against you as soon as the money rolls in. 

I've been there but fortunately my son was close enough and smart enough to put two and two together to an extent that now he's grown up he lives with me and has little to do with his mother. You may not have that luxury, you'll be paying for a kid that has been brain washed into hating you and you'll have the pleasure of paying for that. You must know inside that you've next to no chance of seeing your son again just judging by the kind of person his mother is if she allows you to visit you'll be walking into an ambush.

Good luck, stay low and move fast.

[Snowy79]

As a side note I don't know about the USA but the UK has an agreement with the Child Support Agency where UK rules apply also in the Philippines. We have a website listing all the countries that respect claims from parents regardless what country they live in as long as the country has dual tax relationships.

[Dave Hounddriver]

1 hour ago, chris49 said:

As for cases of child support being filed in the USA. That's actually a laugher, Joy still has her first marriage on file in the NSO, she would have to solve that first.

Then the USA must be extremely different than Canada.  In Canada the only thing that enters into it is if the child thinks of you as one of the father's.  I say one of because, in Canada, if you move in with a girl long enough to have the boy call you Dad then you are a stepfather and liable for child support when you split with the mother.  I know a good friend whose kid had 3 daddy's, all paying child support.  Having been the victim of a vicious woman taking me for all I can get to support someone else's kid I would surely never laugh at the possibility of paying child support.  But if you find it amusing I am happy to give you a laugh.

[Reboot]

I'd be careful of anything that could put me on the $ hook, especially if circumstances make it very possible that the child is not even mine.

[Jack Peterson]

 Hmmmmmmmm Chris this is a Corker, Putting aside the parentage of the Boy for a moment, I am sure you will tell us if you genuinely thought that you were not the father but as it is you seem to have accepted That he is your son and I would Guess Your Name is on the Birth Certificate? I know that this is a Sensitive matter and am going to try and choose my words as carefully as I can, So having Read and Reread your opening Post I will if I may, just post my thoughts.

Chris, I am Going to presume that at the time he was born, You thought you were married? Now it Transpires that you were not and legally, never were? So I will ask, do you think the Original Passport, should have been Given and you mentioned US Citizenship, Had all this been known at the time would this Citizenship and Passport have been granted ?

It is not something I would like to Go through and I can only Hope the lad is Strong enough to take all this in and come out unscathed, When Marriage (Relationships) go to meltdown it is always the Kids that Suffer, I know Chris that you will do the right thing by him if you Can and I do Hope that all works out. Boy you have a Good Un in Gina mate cos I think I might take a beating if this came up like it has for you. Chin Up and take it day by day 

 

[robert k]

I am reasonably certain that Chris the OP had to sign an affidavit that the boy is his son. I think that would make it legally so and pure heck to undo, possibly impossible, even if the boy is not his biological son.

[Methersgate]

I would ask your wife. 

I would be extremely careful never to talk to the ex unless you are doing so on a loudspeaker and microphone and your wife can hear every word spoken, clearly.

Edited to add: I don't think this is about the passport. I think that is just an excuse, and she is out for whatever she can get. Putting the little boy on the line is the give away.

I would recommend breaking off contact and changing your sim card etc. But as I say ask your wife.

Bottom line is don't put your present happiness with your wife and children at risk for the sake of a little boy. You actually cannot help him, now. Maybe later, but not now. 

 

 

 

 

Edited August 26, 2016 by Methersgate