Have times changed for you

[stevewool]

Well boys and girls , as always its been a great response from you all on any changes many have noticed, but it all sounds like nothing has changed for the worst only the better for many, thank you all.

[Gratefuled]

3 minutes ago, stevewool said:

Well boys and girls , as always its been a great response from you all on any changes many have noticed, but it all sounds like nothing has changed for the worst only the better for many, thank you all.

Don't count on it. It can always get worse. 

So, if the place you are leaving is worse than it is here then you will love it here. 

I call it PURGATORY here. I'm paying my dues for being naughty. So, I'm sending notice to St Peter to hold the gate open for me.

 

[stevewool]

Just now, Gratefuled said:

Don't count on it. It can always get worse. 

So, if the place you are leaving is worse than it is here then you will love it here. 

I call it PURGATORY here. I'm paying my dues for being naughty. So, I'm sending notice to St Peter to hold the gate open for me.

 

Anywhere can get worst or better, just like you say.

The problem i am seeing now is we are visiting all these nice places and yes when the sunshines everywhere looks and feels great and you think could i live here.

Its near to the family just a short flight away and its sort of cheap compared to back home , BUT I AM ON HOLIDAY AND EVERYTHING IS GREAT.

Keep saving Steve soon i will be in Coron and i will then say WOW lets live here.

[virginprune]

7 hours ago, Gratefuled said:

Don't count on it. It can always get worse. 

So, if the place you are leaving is worse than it is here then you will love it here. 

I call it PURGATORY here. I'm paying my dues for being naughty. So, I'm sending notice to St Peter to hold the gate open for me.

 

Maybe your karma is down to your own negativity. If you exercised more positive thoughts while here I'm sure the time until you realise your dream ( of living in the US with your wife ) would be far more pleasant than it seems to be.

[Gratefuled]

9 hours ago, virginprune said:

Maybe your karma is down to your own negativity. If you exercised more positive thoughts while here I'm sure the time until you realise your dream ( of living in the US with your wife ) would be far more pleasant than it seems to be.

First of all. I do not subscribe to "karma". Like I've said before, I'm a realist. I see things for what they are and not what I wish them to be. 

I make the most of my time here in the PI. I do not dwell on the negative part of it. Yes, I do look forward to a more "pleasant" life back home in southern California. 

So, please do not read into my posts what you imagine my life to be like here. 

[AlwaysRt]

1 hour ago, Gratefuled said:

First of all. I do not subscribe to "karma". Like I've said before, I'm a realist. I see things for what they are and not what I wish them to be. 

I make the most of my time here in the PI. I do not dwell on the negative part of it. Yes, I do look forward to a more "pleasant" life back home in southern California. 

So, please do not read into my posts what you imagine my life to be like here. 

My impression from reading your posts over time is that the 'you hate it here' and 'this is purgatory' comments is more blowing off steam than being one step away from suicide. I assume you are just not comfortable living where you are but have stayed to be with your wife. That uncomfortable feeling over time has worn down to the nerve and that is the reaction we read sometimes. Some people like it here, others don't, neither is wrong as it is personal preference, not right or wrong.

I remember you saying your wife has agreed to move to SoCal, do you have a date yet or still working on Visas etc? Would you start a thread on that experience as I will eventually be doing that for my wife? Have you considered the possibility that after being here so long SoCal might feel a little bit too constricting (just about anything goes to rules, rules, rules)?

[Dave Hounddriver]

21 minutes ago, AlwaysRt said:

My impression from reading your posts over time is that the 'you hate it here' and 'this is purgatory' comments is more blowing off steam

I've done that.

I once moved to what seemed to be the most boring, God foresaken part of the Philippines to please my then gf and I remember standing outside in the CONSTANT rain and hollering at the moon (which I could not see due to the clouds and rain) and screaming "What the f**k am I doing in this b*m f**k back woods sh*thole" and then I got it out of my system and proceded to make the best of it and ended up actually enjoying my time there, until it was time to move on.  I did NOT burden my friends and forum mates with my aggravation caused by my own choices.

One should spit out the rant and move on.  Don't dwell on it! (Or if you must dwell on it then do that for as short a time as possible while mentally preparing yourself to make the best of what you've got.)  For crying out loud, I know a guy with no legs who lives here and does less complaining than certain members here.

[Gratefuled]

36 minutes ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

One should spit out the rant and move on.  Don't dwell on it! (Or if you must dwell on it then do that for as short a time as possible while mentally preparing yourself to make the best of what you've got.)

Done that. 

Moving on. 

( putting on my rose coloured glasses)

No more complaints about this shythole

[Mr-T]

22 hours ago, Nickleback99 said:

MrT, how are schools for your 12 yr old?  Curious as that'll be huge consideration for us once we move there with then 3 yr old and figure by age 10 we'll have decide on return to US or not for grades 6-12.   Thnx. 

School is okay but nothing like the U.S. from what i can remember. Our daughter started school here and just finished the 6th. grade. Now she will be starting 7th. grade in august. For the 5th. and 6th. grade she did the Paces international cariculum. This is almost like a home study and the student advance at their own pace. Well with my wife's supervision  even though she attend classes (school) every day. The schools here have many extra activities not related to academics which i think is not necessary. The school our daughter will be going to ( No Paces) have a science section which she had to take a entrance test for. We will see how things develops and decide later if we should return to the U.S. for her to continue her education. 

Hope this helps.

[Snowy79]

I think this could be a whole new thread about what choices a person made to make them either like or dislike their move. 

I've lived in some pretty grim places through no choice of my own due to my time in the military. I just looked on it a temporary phase I was going through and that soon I'd be moving onto pastures new. 

Even moving a few hours away to a new location can make a difference to ones attitude. I've moved from a condo in Manila that was like a coffin and to make matters worse I was bed bound due to an injury. I just tuned into the tv or surfed the web to keep my sanity. Never once did I get to the stage of hating it. It wasn't my first choice and I knew within the month I could up sticks and move which I did.

I'm now happy as a pig in the proverbial. Fresh air, a nice apartment, Crystal clear waters and nice beaches living a life at a fraction of the cost of the UK. 

At the same time I've a friend living here with a completely different attitude. If something isnt to his liking he just doesn't say "no thanks i don't like it" he literaly spits his hate out. If hes offered something he doesn't like he goes on for about 10 seconds how much he hates it. Usually along the lines of " I f@@@@@ hate it, hate it. Don't ever offer me that again I f@@@@ hate it.' I've tried to tell him a simple no thanks is good enough but that usually leads to another rant. 

In short some people will always find a problem instead of a solution. Moving here is just like moving around your own country. The only difference being you can usually afford to live in the better places here. 

Edited July 9, 2017 by Snowy79
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