Still an Elder Bachelor's. Paradise? Or is it now a Myth?

[Tommy T.]

On 12/24/2019 at 4:02 PM, graham59 said:

I know what I see in my Mrs... but the lord only knows what she sees in me. lol  

 

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Very nice, Graham... She looks to definitely be a keeper!

[graham59]

I hope so... been together 8 years and married for 4 of them.  

[OzeMike]

On 12/24/2019 at 4:02 PM, graham59 said:

I know what I see in my Mrs... but the lord only knows what she sees in me. lol  

 

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A lovely lady Graham... definitely a keeper! Wishing much happiness 

[graham59]

Thank you sir ! 

[Dave Hounddriver]

On 12/26/2019 at 10:58 PM, Marvin Boggs said:

I admit to having been curious at times whether its the white skin and 'money' (such as it is), or what we men may call 'genuine attraction

I put the following question to my wife:  "You are single and you know you want a foreigner for a husband.  3 American suitors approach you.  Each are the same age, with the same amount of money, with the same degree of handsomeness.  The only difference is that one looks similar to the white foreigners you find here (born and raised US and retired in the Philippines); another looks similar to the black foreigners you find here (born and raised US and retired in the Philippines); the third looks similar to the filipino men you find here (born and raised in the US to immigrant parents and retired in the Philipines);  Which do you choose.

I won't spoil it with the answer.  Guys who have an honest wife should ask the same question if they really want to know the answer.

[davewe]

Since we've defined Paradise as just relating to the girl situation, I'll address that. I think it's still sort of a paradise. I base that on a couple factors:

1. As a mid to late 50s guy in the US I was divorced and most of the time single. This despite a good job, decent money, nice house,  car. etc. Almost all my divorced peers were in the same boat and I am sure most of them still are alone.

2. Now that I live in the Philippines I have observed a number of my friends change partners. None of them, despite advancing years, have had a problem getting another girl, and often did so quickly. I can think of only one guy who has chosen to remain single and focus on other aspects of his retired life. But I'm confident he wouldn't have a problem if and when he wants another girl.

A couple of interesting (to me) dynamics. Since I live in Dumaguete with a big foreigner population, it's certainly different than a small provincial area. That said, based on #2 above I feel confident that if something happened to my marriage I could find someone else, if I wanted to. But guess what; my wife knows the same thing. There's enough foreigners here that I think she knows she would not be alone. I actually think this equality is a good thing.

The other dynamic I find interesting is the attitude not of Filipinas toward age but of most expats. Most believe that their younger wife/partner is a good Filipina interested in more than just his money. Yet most of them also say that most Filipinas are only interested in the money. IOW, their thought process is "I have a good one - my friends are with gold diggers." It's a funny dynamic.

[Mick]

I think it depends how desperate the girls are for cash, our youngest daughter is in dumagete at uni, some of her friends are dating older men to get money to help with the costs of studying, one of the main costs is renting a place to live, the ones not needing cash, just think of them as whores and Dirty old men, that's from our daughters mouth not mine, she has told us some weird stories, even her, only 20 years old, getting approached by men in there 60's trying there luck, I won't tell you her reply to them, as trying to keep this clean.... 😜

[Jack Peterson]

 Sad to say but It's all about Money  NO? well I am afraid people are misguided, if it was not about money Filipinas would be Not be Looking for Older Foreigners and instead Look on an Older ( mature Filipino)  and as with a Post or two ago, anyone that would consider a new Lady if all went wrong are to me, Not in a very strong Relationship and BTW I have never considered a Divorced man a Bachelor but Just Single And playing the Field as it seems the OP is 

[Heeb]

15 hours ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

I put the following question to my wife:  "You are single and you know you want a foreigner for a husband.  3 American suitors approach you.  Each are the same age, with the same amount of money, with the same degree of handsomeness.  The only difference is that one looks similar to the white foreigners you find here (born and raised US and retired in the Philippines); another looks similar to the black foreigners you find here (born and raised US and retired in the Philippines); the third looks similar to the filipino men you find here (born and raised in the US to immigrant parents and retired in the Philipines);  Which do you choose.

I won't spoil it with the answer.  Guys who have an honest wife should ask the same question if they really want to know the answer.

The Filipino with the black man’s penis and the white dudes sperm. They want it all.

[jimeve]

2 hours ago, Heeb said:

The Filipino with the black man’s penis and the white dudes sperm. They want it all.

No, they said to me. Filipinos penis too small, black mans penis too big and the white man's penis is just right. Not sure they meant porridge.