Am I Rationalising Or What !

[Dave Hounddriver]

Couple aged 50/20 here... You can see from these examples that sometimes it does work. I

It works fine in the Philippines. Nobody gives us a second look or a negative comment after 5 years of being together. But if we ever move to the West we would be looked at with sneers and frowns everywhere we went. I know this just from trips to Hong Kong and conversations with friends and relatives in the west.

The west is still prejudiced and racist. If you can deal with that then you can have a great relationship with a younger filipina bride.

[GregZ]

It works fine in the Philippines. Nobody gives us a second look or a negative comment after 5 years of being together. But if we ever move to the West we would be looked at with sneers and frowns everywhere we went. I know this just from trips to Hong Kong and conversations with friends and relatives in the west.

The west is still prejudiced and racist. If you can deal with that then you can have a great relationship with a younger filipina bride.

We've been to Hong Kong and Singapore; no problems there. I've got 2 of my girl's relatives in Georgia with NO PROBLEMs like that. Age differences over 25 years; 24/51, 43/69 (young daughter together this pair - YEAH). Of course there is always the stray jerk ... but you can't let 1 in 1000 bother you. They aren't worth giving them that much power over your life that you should NOT even mention them in conversation.

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[Jake]

... So, the 18 to 30 group. ... but I've had good

and serious conversations with a few. I'm honest with them and they seem accepting of me.

Couple aged 50/20 here... You can see from these examples that sometimes it does work. I started talking to my girl (19 then) after 1 month of hounding by my friend and his Filipina wife (her aunt). I finally said, "FINE, I'll talk to her." NOT only did I think that she was way too young and pretty (pretty was actually a big NEGATIVE to me as someone soooo beautiful on the outside can't be good on the inside was my stereotype); along with a long list of reservations I NEVER wanted a relationship with a woman again because of past experience. It only took 3 months and I was hopelessly and forever in love with Miss Taring!

I moved to the Philippines in April 2012 to be with her until the visa is approved... A long story makes it October 2013 before we move to the USA, at least for a few years. Point being, I AM GLAD I came with the ability to stay because I NEVER want to do internet chat with her again... SOOOOO much better in person.

I cannot say it better than i am bob: "I realized that she was probably more honest, mature AND also exactly the woman I not only wanted but dreamed of finding. Regardless if she was older, younger, or even the same age as I am, she would still be the one I want to be with for the rest of my life... :-kiss: :mocking:" HE even got the smileys right!!!

Good morning Greg and Miss Taring,

Are we writing poetry here? Yet another love story openly revealed in public and I am so moved by your words.

It doesn't have to rhyme but the message hits the heart.

I finally said, "FINE, I'll talk to her." NOT only did I think that she was way too young and pretty (pretty was actually a big NEGATIVE to me as someone soooo beautiful on the outside can't be good on the inside was my stereotype); along with a long list of reservations I NEVER wanted a relationship with a woman again because of past experience. It only took 3 months and I was hopelessly and forever in love with Miss Taring! I AM GLAD I came with the ability to stay because I NEVER want to do internet chat with her again... SOOOOO much better in person.

I don't know about you guys but I immediately had happy thoughts after reading Greg's story. It brought back

many vivid memories of my wife Judy when I first met her. I concur with Greg......SOOOOO much better in person!

Well done my friend -- Jake

[Julia]

i should have added that pretty is only window dressing the real beauty comes from with in treat them with love and honesty and you will be repaid 10 fold :thumbsup:

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[Classic Dry]

There have been some great responses here, and once I got past the absolute teeth clenching, sphincter tightening jealousy

I was able to fully appreciate the information, advice and experiences.

In my opening post I may have given the impression that I discount anyone not pretty and in the 20/30 group. Not so.

I look at all those faces I find attractive and interesting, hence my experiences with other age groups,

and people from other countries.

Had the advice here been "Yes, forget it, they're too young." I would concentrate on the older age groups.

( but I would still be looking at all ) In fact as you see the opposite is true and "Go for it" is the advice.

Those age groups are purely arbitrary, and mean little really.

One thing I've changed as a result of advice given in "Kids, who wants 'em ?"

Previously I've ignored anyone with kids.

I don't want anyone I'm serious about leaving me because I can't provide her with a child, even if, at the outset, I have

been honest and she has said she doesn't want children. Women/girls have a tendency to change their minds.

( Has anyone else noticed that ? ) So, in my search I will include those females with one child.

( Am I benevolent or what ? )

By and large I'm looking for any photo and profile that jumps out and bites my bum !

I'll keep looking on the net for fun, for possibilities and because I need to get a life ! ! !

I'll be coming soon, I hope.

Watch out for me !!!!

[GregZ]

In my opening post I may have given the impression that I discount anyone not pretty and in the 20/30 group. Not so. I look at all those faces I find attractive and interesting, hence my experiences with other age groups, and people from other countries. Had the advice here been "Yes, forget it, they're too young." I would concentrate on the older age groups. ( but I would still be looking at all ) In fact as you see the opposite is true and "Go for it" is the advice. Those age groups are purely arbitrary, and mean little really.

When I read your OP I did not get a "discountiing" feeling for any of the groups you made... EXCEPT the one YOU are in being discounted BY selected individuals. :mocking: Really, I took it for just what you meant apparently; probably because your view seems to be much like mine. (btw - that makes it the correct view) :36_6_3[1]:

YES, keep looking at all because you never know what gem you will find in an unusual location/circumstance. :tiphat:

[Thomas]

I don't want anyone I'm serious about leaving me because I can't provide her with a child, even if, at the outset, I have been honest and she has said she doesn't want children. Women/girls have a tendency to change their minds. ( Has anyone else noticed that ? ) So, in my search I will include those females with one child. ( Am I benevolent or what ? )

Well. SOME change their minds,

some are very goal orriented even if it's much less common in the Philippines,

but the group, which I believe suit you best, is common (=Want/have child/children, a steady relation. And the good ones DON'T try to get rich, BUT want economy enough to live safe, give children an OK education (=Phili univercity/college which don't cost so much) and can help (closest) family some, so they can live OK too.)

Some big urban parts is similar to us, but in the Philippines traditional living parts (=most) it's as it was in Protestant "kano countries" 60 years ago (=It's a shame to be a single mother, without being widow.) So they value down themselves. That plus they have the child too they want a save economic life for, make single mums not a benevolent but wice choise :) specialy if the man can't get biological children, because most - not selfish - women want at least one child. (Except them very unselfish, who prefer to help all the children without parents taking care of them.)

[Jollygoodfellow]

To answer the OP post, I think there is no right or wrong. If one finds love then age is not a problem nor is if the woman has a child as where can anyone find the perfect relationship without experiencing it first. We might think to ourselves that she has to be this age, no kids, black hair and a trimmed front lawn but at the end of the day when those little arrows hit you nothing will matter.

 

MikeS has a really good relationship as he has said, I have met Mike and his wife a couple of times and dammed if I can remember her name but anyone could see they are a match made in cheese cake and cream.

 

Go with what the heart feels.   :thumbsup:

[brock]

black hair and a trimmed front lawn

 

 

I like that... :hystery:

[sjp52]

Have you noticed there are a lot of guys on this forum with happy healthy relationships. Have you noticed there is not so much bikkering and argueing on this forum compared to others. I think these to statements go hand in hand