Falling down the rabbit hole.

[Old55]

If you and your GF set and agree to specific exact expectations on transfer of wealth to her or her family it will reduce much of the gamesmanship.

if the requests lies or tempo occur later in the relationship you may have to walk away.

[Balisidar]

8 hours ago, sanagimo said:

When to meet the police officer brother and he put us up in cheap beachfront hotel for us.

Red lights flashing "Danger Will Robinson".  If you piss her or any of the family off...watch out.  As others have said be very cautious and very careful.  And you never " lay it on the line" about her family.  Best thing is just to politely push aside any requests for help.  After you've been together for a while then laying it out might become an option.

[hk blues]

50 minutes ago, Balisidar said:

Red lights flashing "Danger Will Robinson".  If you piss her or any of the family off...watch out.  As others have said be very cautious and very careful.  And you never " lay it on the line" about her family.  Best thing is just to politely push aside any requests for help.  After you've been together for a while then laying it out might become an option.

Good advice.

For me, from the outset I laughed off the one or two mild attempts to get into "money talk" and treated them as a joke although I know they weren't really - this allowed me to set out my stall without getting into heavy discussion and loss of face etc.  After 7 years, we've a clear understanding of how we all stand.  I voluntarily lent some money a few months back and now that the family finances have taken a turn for the better it will be time to have the discussion soon - let's see how that goes.  

 

[Colsie]

11 hours ago, sanagimo said:

This place is awesome I love the action and the province way. cheap Tuba and good food. I spent countless hours reading and watching videos on all the traps and thinks to avoid but here I am falling for the same story so many others have. Is this real can a guy find a young province girl and it be real. Thought Id test and left my wallet out with probably 1/2 months salary for her dad and not one peso went missing. Anyhow just need to be brought back to reality with some comments . When to meet the police officer brother and he put us up in cheap beachfront hotel for us. Sure I spent a few bucks on beer and a kilo of liver but I offered it. they were happy climbing the tree to make  boku just and kill a chicken pick some bananas. My little guy is thinki

There is a big difference between visiting the province and living in the province. 

To live there you're going to have rent or buy or build a house. Not just a low cost simple wooden house unless you want to be injured or die when a typhoon or other natural calamity strikes. Then there's the lack of services in the provinces, brown outs and water outages. Internet service can be terrible and as for hospitals...anyway, you may not have the same fondness if you experience living in the province. There's good things and bad things. 

Now then... Young province girl will be all about family. There's an expat saying, live in province atleast two islands away from her family or the idyllic girl to have is an orphan. Joking aside, living with your girl near her family will impact your finances to some degree. I don't mean that they maliciously target your wallet, but in many cases the poverty here in the Philippines means that you'll probably want your girlfriend to be happy and she will want to help her family if needed. There are ways to reduce the risk of costs due to family, but it's likely harder if they live close. 

The young province girl is unlikely to be a professional on a high salary, more likely she will have no income. That's were you will come in as source of emotion and financial security. After all she's bringing the best years (most attractive) years of her life to the party... 

So even now, with the pure of heart kind of girl, you'll be getting the jist of what's expected. There's another type of girl that's spent way too long working the bars that would try to manipulate you (and other guys, probably at the same time) to simply relieve of your hard earned finances. 

To the point, can it be real. Yes, it definitely can be real but what are your expections of "real" and how much time and financial commitment can you give? 

The choice is yours, buy or rent... 

[JJReyes]

13 hours ago, sanagimo said:

This place is awesome I love the action and the province way. cheap Tuba and good food. I spent countless hours reading and watching videos on all the traps and thinks to avoid but here I am falling for the same story so many others have. Is this real can a guy find a young province girl and it be real. Thought Id test and left my wallet out with probably 1/2 months salary for her dad and not one peso went missing. Anyhow just need to be brought back to reality with some comments . When to meet the police officer brother and he put us up in cheap beachfront hotel for us. Sure I spent a few bucks on beer and a kilo of liver but I offered it. they were happy climbing the tree to make  boku just and kill a chicken pick some bananas. My little guy is thinki

Keep your bag pack, travel documents nearby and plan an escape route.  Just incase .......

[HappyJack]

Best advice you"ll ever get...Get a pen and paper and write this down, I'll wait.....

 

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[Dave Hounddriver]

10 hours ago, sanagimo said:

she did my laundry with a scrub board. Thats working it 

She will also cut your grass with a pair of scissors and sweep your yard with a twig broom.  These things will happen until you are committed to her.  Then it will be "Honey this is so much work for me, we need a maid, maybe a relative of mine that needs a job.  (I say that this kind of thing is common so expect it, but of course your gf is different so it may never happen.)

[Guy F.]

Have you seen the Three Islands Rule yet?

Your in-laws live on an island. You should live on another island. There should be a third island between those two.

Edited August 3, 2022 by Guy F.

[Jake]

Ahh....to be young and adventurous again.  Many of us found that "diamond in the rough".  For example, an innocent flirting with a bank teller or at a nearby call center, or offering lunch at a college of nursing school or pretending to be a saint at Sunday Mass works for me....he, he.  

Edited August 3, 2022 by Jake

[JJReyes]

As they say in the Philippines, you don't marry the girl, you marry the family.