Older gullible Foreigners + young attractive Filipinas = $?

[Gandang Smile]

10 minutes ago, Old55 said:

I have. Humor my friend. 

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[Snowy79]

I'd put this subject on par with Filipino friends, I think it depends on many variables. You may strike lucky or you could get played like a fiddle. Much like I admire the way a Filipino can do a menial job all day and still smile many can put on a brave face and play the long game until they get what they want and their mask slips.

I'll put my hand up and admit to have mixed with both types and from opposite back grounds and age groups. A 47yr old bank manager that had put her termination papers in as I was going to take care of her and with no work she could spend more time with me, all within 3 months of getting to know me.  I ran fast from that one. 

A now 32yr old that I've known for over 5yrs who was sweet and attentive for two years before the gold digging started.  I finished with her but remained sociable and see her regularly, she has changed so much.  Almost a professional social climber now but destined to remain on the shelf as she admited to targetting younger wealthier foreigners and can't see that those types have the choice of thousands, and if professional tend to look for an equally professional partner.  Many of us oldies will settle for anything that's pretty and smiles regardless if they have a job or kids.

I have had one other including my current partner and of them both have never asked for anything for themselves, one even offered to pawn things to give me money as I played poor, I still do lol.  She is only 30 and stunning with lots of guys after her pretty much trying to influence her with money but she lives happily up a mountain with her brothers and Father.  A real nice person but with a serious temper so I couldn't live with her and finally my current partner. 

Probably the nicest overall, from a respectible family and decent values but I'll admit her family are the type that have lots of bad luck.  Real bad luck not the sick caribou type. Crops flooded, water well poluted etc.  They make a living as small scale farmers with a large sized family to look after and with Covid, typhoons etc for the last year they've been in serious poverty.  She also has her fair share of guys trying their luck but had only one boyfriend before me.  A Filipino that lasted a week

Outside of my life I've lived in areas with lots of foreigners and lost count of the girls with partners trying to get over friendly with me, seen literally hundreds crying on the jetty port as their partner left to go home and the same day they are in the bar chatting up the next victim.  I've even been sitting with some as they laughed over their many partners supporting them and the worst was being in bed with one I thought was single when her partner called. Calm as anything she turned the light off and told me to be quiet as she answered, made out she had been busy all day and was sleeping when he called.  Told him she loved him and will call in the morning. 

In short you may strike lucky as some of the more prominent members here appear to have but I'd hedge a bet the vast majority of ex pats with young attractive partners are pretty much both using each other.  She gets the comfort of no money worries, he gets the girl he'd struggle to get back home and every now and again that business relationship could actually turn into love. I know personally of a couple of relationships with huge age differences and you'd struggle to find a more loving couple despite others trying to split them up. I've also however seen girls leave their partner that I thought they loved as a so called friend offered her the chance to travel around Asia with him. 

[Old55]

I'm curious to know what percentage of Foreigners playing on Filipinas compared to Filipinas scamming and cheating a Foreigner living in Philippines. 

[Jack Peterson]

2 minutes ago, Old55 said:

I'm curious to know what percentage of Foreigners playing on Filipinas compared to Filipinas scamming and cheating a Foreigner living in Philippines. 

 Not sure you would get enough Admissions to formulate a %

[Old55]

5 minutes ago, Jack Peterson said:

 Not sure you would get enough Admissions to formulate a %

Interesting. No one living in Philippines knows of any Foreigners playing Filipinas? It's only Filipinas scamming Foreigners.

[Jack Peterson]

1 minute ago, Old55 said:

Interesting. No one living in Philippines knows of any Foreigners playing Filipinas? It's only Filipinas scamming Foreigners.

As I said Those that do will never admit so who would know? There will always be rumours of course but..............................

[Dave Hounddriver]

19 minutes ago, Old55 said:

No one living in Philippines knows of any Foreigners playing Filipinas?

Its like playing poker.  The foreigners may go to the table thinking they are going to catch a fish, but often they end up being the catch of the day.  Some filipinas are very good at poker.

[Jack Peterson]

3 minutes ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

Its like playing poker.  The foreigners may go to the table thinking they are going to catch a fish, but often they end up being the catch of the day.  Some filipinas are very good at poker.

 

[Snowy79]

I like to think I'm not gullible enough to think a young pretty girl is after me for my dashing good looks and charm. Especially when it tends to be 99% young, pretty and with a child it tow.  Now if I was fighting off successful business woman every day I'd think that I'm obviously god's gift. 

I think the reality for me is most women my age or there abouts carry a lot of excess baggage with them that I'm too old to put up with.  I'm still pretty active so naturally go for younger girls. I'm not a pipe and slippers guy. I like running, swimming, exploring etc.  I think it is a numbers game.  If you chat to enough girls and stay friends with them, every now and again a Diamond shines through. If you meet on the web and decide she's the one your chances of being suckered are very high. 

I do know guys that have a revolving door fitted in their apartments though.  They litteraly have a different girl every day and have no intention of finding one real love. 

[Gandang Smile]

15 minutes ago, Snowy79 said:

I like to think I'm not gullible enough to think a young pretty girl is after me for my dashing good looks and charm. Especially when it tends to be 99% young, pretty and with a child it tow.  Now if I was fighting off successful business woman every day I'd think that I'm obviously god's gift. 

I think the reality for me is most women my age or there abouts carry a lot of excess baggage with them that I'm too old to put up with.  I'm still pretty active so naturally go for younger girls. I'm not a pipe and slippers guy. I like running, swimming, exploring etc.  I think it is a numbers game.  If you chat to enough girls and stay friends with them, every now and again a Diamond shines through. If you meet on the web and decide she's the one your chances of being suckered are very high. 

I do know guys that have a revolving door fitted in their apartments though.  They litteraly have a different girl every day and have no intention of finding one real love. 

Those there are some serious words of wisdom  

It's a "eat or be eaten" world or, as @Dave Hounddriver put it, a game of poker where if you can't find the chicken at your table, it means you are the chicken.

I also met a few guys in Davao who specialise in serial "pump and dump" . They exist but they are comparably few.

There are many more who simply know what they are looking for in a girl, what they can compromise on and what they can't, and try to meet as many girls as possible. They try their luck with them, without much drama, and if one of them happen to tick all boxes and reciprocates, then they stop the carousel and commit. Else, they had some good fun, in bed and outside, so long thanks for all the fish!

I personally considered myself in this latter camp, until about 3 years ago. I had fun with the ladies, loved treating them to a nice coffee and cake or dinner and spending one or three nights with them. More than 50% of the times their intention to get a life-saving relationship with a "wealthy" Kano was a tarpaulin-sized banner taped to their foreheads. If they were good looking and good in bed, I would keep them for a while but give them no assurance of them being "the one" nor "the only". Most of the time they were OK. If they weren't OK they were free to hop onto the next train.

The other 50% of the times it was girls who, bless them, didn't want to commit but were OK with a little fun in exchange for a few dinners out or a little black dress bought from the mall. Unless they were sticky and insistent, I normally wouldn't mind. These tended to be the slightly more mature and independent ones and more often than not they were a good conversation and good all-round friends.

Then I met C and she was enough for me to stop the carousel, dismount the plastic horse, close down the whole circus and move elsewhere. 

 

Edited January 6, 2021 by Gandang Smile