Motivations

[i am bob]

Well, I tried not to but here is my 2 cents worth...

I really am getting sick and tired of reading posts that put down the women as all being gold diggers, unfaithful, and wish us all dead! Are there women like that? Every country you go to! Is every woman in the Philippines like this? Bull! For those who have to spend money every night to buy what they think is love, maybe they are the one doing something wrong and need to change. Find somewhere new to meet somebody! If they are happy living life like this, fine! But quit putting every other woman down! Several people have come out and posted that their wives / girlfriends have told them these outrageous number of others who are telling them that they are there just to scam someone... Well, I think either your wives / girlfriends need to find new friends or maybe they are just saying these things to try and get you to realize how lucky you are to be with them... Is this the only explanation? No! But I highly doubt it is always because most are more interested in scamming or killing their partners!

I don't blame anyone on this forum right now for having strong feelings either way on this subject... Someone else did quite well laying down his supposed truths of how godlike he was while ridiculing and twisting the words of others in a way that this person often sounded believable and knowledgeable... If you sided with him, he built you up so that you would follow his twisted thinking... If you didn't, you were an idiot who would be sucked into a life of hell with, yes, a scammer who would rather see you dead... Or you were some other horrible person that everybody should hate... Hear it enough and soon others will start to believe it...

For anyone who feels slighted by my words, I apologize! I am not here to insult or put anyone down. But I felt the words I was seeing on here and several other posts were originally created or twisted solely in an effort to cause insult to not only our female members but also to all our members and their families - be they part of our vocal group or the silent majority who come here to just read, learn and enjoy.

[Jack Peterson]

:unsure: It is a crying shame really, when the OP announced he would Start this Topic, I said it would serve little purpose, The whole thing would come back to Square one and revert back, to his original Topic, of Scammers and the obvious dislike of the PI and it's Ladies, How right it seems I was. Playing with fire is not good and people get burnt. As posted here many times, most of us have stable and Loving Relationships. I dont Understand why but I don't blame any Man or Lady that just wants to play but this is not the place to air, any views of things that go wrong just because they can't settle and enjoy life. there are other places for this type of Topic and Posting

For me, Enough said :)

Jack P. :tiphat:

[sjp52]

I don,t mind them talking this way, as it makes me feel special that I have one of the rare, hard to find woman in this country :mocking: I remember when I was in Canada going threw my divorce and that woman that I raised my kids with sucked the life out of me taking most of my money and playing games with my head. I thought, All Canadian women are the same, They are only out for 2 things, to control you and take your money. As time went on I realized that women are the same all over ( just like men ) there are good and decent ones, so so ones and the bad ones that will use you and scam you. But they can only do that if you let them.

I know these forums are a good place for people who are going through a hard time to vent out their frustrations. I dont feel angry at them only sorry for them and hope that their misfortunes are short lived and they can get on with their lives. I have noticed one thing on this forum and that speaks loudly of the members here and that is most of us have over come the low low odds of finding a decent wife here. We must be doing something right. Or maybe the percentages so many people talk about are not as true as they have heard

I have said this before and I will say it again, I have met a lot of Filipinos here, Men and women and the majority of them are very kind and caring and friendly people and are always willing to help. I have met some bad ones too, but that makes me appreciate the good ones more

[OnMyWay]

Actually I am an extreme anomaly to the norm. I made the kind of post on the date site Cherry B that all but eliminated gold diggers and the generally poor provincial girls from the equation in my search for a gf. I got one response. She is now my partner. As it turns out she had already been married to a Foreigner. When we hooked up it was not for my money as she has her own. I guess she liked me for me and also I was under 50 at the time. Another thing is I have been coming here for 30 years and know what to look and look out for. Don't take this as snobbery. Just who I am.

Here, here! Sounds like what I did! Too many guys set themselves up for the scammers! You can find really wonderful women on the dating sites if you look beyond the pictures and think with the big head, not the little one!

[phildiver]

I think this is all quite fun. Happiness seems to be an important goal especialy for those of us now retired. I would just advise when going into a relationship here to just use some common sense. Your probably not Adonis or the greatest thing since sliced milk. Just get naked and stand in front of a mirror and say to yourself, would this body make an 18 - 30 year old Filipina hot LOL Kidding Really it is all about common sense. There is going to be a trade off in a relationship here as anywhere so each can get what they want without shame or guilt. The girls gets security and you get laid and taken care of for the rest of your life. Again, I know some really happy guys that are not settled down and more or less sleep with young beautiful girls that need tuition money and they are very happy with that arrangement. No commitments no headaches. To each their own. Just do your Due Diligence and don't be stupid about it. Use your big head and not your little one.

Edited June 12, 2012 by phildiver

[OnMyWay]

I had to re-read this whole thread to see where the direction was coming from. Honestly I thought Jode's original post was well thought out and honest, about motivations for coming to Phils, with nothing derogatory towards Filipina's, so I am not sure where we got diverted down that road.

Regarding that road, let's face it, anywhere in the world, if a 60 year old man is pursuing an 18 year old woman, the motivations on both sides can be vastly different than if he is pursuing someone closer to his age. Any 60 year old who thinks an 18 year old is going to fall head over heels in love with him because he is cute and witty needs to pull his head out of the sand! If you want to go that route, fine, there are wonderful 18 year Filipinas who will devote their lives to you, but accept the reality of the situation. Please, no offense intended to anyone here. Here is one theory: The wider the age spread, the more exposed you are to encountering scammers!

I preferred to do what Phildiver did: Post a profile on a dating website that will scare away most scammers! This worked for me and I found a truly wonderful human being to be my partner in life! The internet is a powerful tool for finding someone special, but you need to use it wisely!

I have learned a lot from my girlfriend about Filipina motivations for finding a foreigner, but I will save that for another thread.

[OnMyWay]

I think this is all quite fun. Happiness seems to be an important goal especialy for those of us now retired. I would just advise when going into a relationship here to just use some common sense. Your probably not Adonis or the greatest thing since sliced milk. Just get naked and stand in front of a mirror and say to yourself, would this body make an 18 - 30 year old Filipina hot LOL Kidding Really it is all about common sense. There is going to be a trade off in a relationship here as anywhere so each canget what they want without shame or guilt. The girls gets security and you get laid and taken care of for the rest of your life. Again, I know some really happy guys that are not settled down and more or less sleep with young beautiful girls that need tuition money and they are very happy with that arrangement. No commitments no headaches. To each their own. Just do your Due Diligence and don't be stupid about it. Use your big head and not your little one.

Ha ha, good timing, echoing my thoughts exactly!

Actually, I am working on the Adonis part: lost 10 lbs this last month! :hystery:

I need to hook up with you sometime as diving and UW photography is one the things I want to pursue as soon as I get over there.

[i am bob]

Before anybody thinks that I believe everything is always rosy and cheery in a person's search for love, I do agree that we have to think with our brains rather than another part of our anatomy as well! Yes, there are scammers and users out there waiting to separate us from our money or even just looking for security rather than love. Taking the time to get to know one another - the same you would anywhere in this world - is what we need to do. If we go to a dating site, we better understand that this is where many scammers will lurk. But there are more places to meet than just a dating site. How did you meet someone (respectable) in your home country? As for age? I agree that many extremely young (compared to our much older age) is often a recipe for disaster but not always... I have more issues dating women closer to my age - but that is just me... One of my best friends is married to a woman almost twice his age and they have a fantastic marriage along with 3 great kids!

So what am I trying to say? Simply this... Not every woman and not every man is the same as the one beside them... Take your time in all things - looking, dating, getting to know each other - and look at both sides of the relationship. If it's good, great! If not, well, that's up to you... Just don't blame my girlfriend or anyone else if you didn't look close enough.

[phildiver]

I AM BOB I am curious as to your relationship status. Do you have a long distance relationship with a Filipina in the Philippines, with a Filipina in Canada or Single. I am always curious about people that make comments on sites but don't actually live in the cultures they comment about. Honestly to truly understand the dynamic of dating and motivations of Women in this Country (sincere or otherwise) you would have to be here a while and have experienced the ol Baptism by Fire. So where actually do you live in Canada or the Philippines. Not trying to put you on the spot but you make lots of comments on this board and just wondering where your experience is coming from.

Edited June 13, 2012 by phildiver

[Okieboy]

i live in the Philippines and the women here are looking for the same thing, a home a family , granted their are gold diggers., so what , i have been with a lot of woman all over the world, show me a woman in the USA that has never went to bed for money and i will show you and old maid, all this bull sh&t about woman looking for mister America is just that and you think you have found the only one , she thinks your a god,hahahahah where is your avatar , i would like to see this god ,i live in the real culture .