Sharing between the family

[mogo51]

Good one Jack, too good!  I can see us having some laughs over a few Pils.

[Jack Peterson]

1 minute ago, mogo51 said:

Good one Jack, too good!  I can see us having some laughs over a few Pils.

I had a Bad Weekend and it has taken me till now to get my head sorted so I thought truth with Humour was needed.

[mogo51]

Its working Jack, imagine how sharp you are going to be tomorrow, like a HB pencil!

[RBM]

No easy answer here guys, even seems to have Jack bluffed!!

I have been a believer in the catch a fish  syndrome how ever not always working. Friend of mine bought family a hi ace for passenger transport in Leyte. Family successfully did the paper work and were in business. 

he made a ruling that a third of the income was kept for oil changes and maintenance. Every month the vehicle was grounded for this purpose. The business thrived and soon an extra van was added subject to same conditions. All went well and he was never again accosted for money.

Some time later he returned with the esow to the states, leaving of course strict instructions that the business model must be enforced at all times. Fast forward 6 months business was broke, vans not working and drivers not showing.

Now hopefully this is not typical how ever perhaps a warning it pays to guard our investments wisely.

[mogo51]

Interesting how that unfolded.  Was the problem that the 'cash flow' stopped flowing at the participants pockets?

If so, sad but not to be unexpected.

 

[robert k]

10 minutes ago, mogo51 said:

Interesting how that unfolded.  Was the problem that the 'cash flow' stopped flowing at the participants pockets?

If so, sad but not to be unexpected.

 

Willing to wager that the maintenance money was spent on other things, one van dies, the second operated twice as hard with no maintenance and it follows the first very shortly. The classic problems, not limited to the Philippines I may add, that it's hard to make people value what they didn't earn the money to pay for. The other is that if they are "family" vehicles, what everybody owns, no single person feels responsible for or does what is necessary for it to survive. If it's the "family's" vehicle, whose job is it to check the oil and coolant?

 

 

[chris49]

15 hours ago, RBM said:

Now hopefully this is not typical how ever perhaps a warning it pays to guard our investments wisely

It is so dam typical it epitomizes so many things.

Drivers of vehicles perhaps not owners, have so many transgressions. Drinking, gambling, the odd mistress along the route.

Presence of the owner is always better.

[Tukaram (Tim)]

They just share differently than we do. 

 

Backstory: They had a brother die, before I was in the scene. No one had burial money so he got the free/cheap (?) barangay burial. you get 5 years in the burial stack. After that, you either get moved to a real plot, or they put someone in with you....

Last year my sister-in-law let me know that the 5 years was almost up and "we" needed p5,000 to bury the brother.  I replied that was convenient because there are 6 surviving brothers and sisters.  Two sisters have good jobs in Manila, 2 sisters and a sister-in-law are OFW, and there is my wife.  I said we would all pay p1,000 each.  Sounded fair to me... was the last I ever heard of it. The 5 year mark came & went, and someone else's name is on his grave - but they still offer candles to him.

Guess they did not want to share?  I was willing to pay my wife's part. 

[stevewool]

Wow and here is me thinking i was the only FOOL, sorry, kind person who took many sob stories first hand,

Yes many know me and what i have spent so far and whether its being taken for a fool or how ever it reads , i am happy with the outcome so far,

In real money terms i recon we have put around £13000 in the Philippines or 870,000 peso give or take ,but that has gone onto the house build, but remember boys and girls, Emma is working here and half of that amount is from her savings too, 

Its for her father to live comfortable and for us to live there too, so i dont think thats a bad amount for what we have got so far, and its a amount where we both could walk away from if anything goes wrong and not have to worry about it,

The other amounts we have sent for the broken washer and so called care , i have worked it around its a Christmas gift then , it works for me so far,

There has been times where there has been the big NO, and the outcome from that was the silent treatment towards Emma from her sisters, that does not bother me and sometimes i think it does not bother Ems too, she can see some members now for how they are , but its family ,

Some  great reading from many of you, and i recon a few members here should set up some sort of comity of whether we should borrow, sorry, give away our hard earned cash or not, we Wet behind the ears westerners  are to kind for our own good, but some do learn quick

Edited March 8, 2016 by stevewool
wrong spelling

[Dave Hounddriver]

5 hours ago, Sander Martin said:

Hopefully no1 gets offended. I also think it depends alot about the age gap between the guy and girl. If you have say a 60-70yo foregner and a 20yo girl, then you know the relationship is about money. And aslong as both of them are happy with the agreement then its ok. Most of you guys are aged in the bracked that you have/had/could have daughters in the 20s. Im sure you wouldn't like your baby girl bringing home a man that could be her grandpa. I feel its not different here, but because of the poverty alot of parents would not complain here, as they just see the older man a meal ticket for their kid and them.

i might be one of the few guys that actually has a Filipina fiance that is older than them hahaha.

Just my two cents, dont kill me.

Hopefully no 1 gets offended.  I think it depends a lot about the age gap between the guy and gal.  If you have a retired foreigner who has a filipina wife who is older than him or close to the same age then that tells me the guy is insecure and does not think he can get a young one.  Perhaps he cares too much what other people think so is a little afraid to have a younger lady on his arm.

Does this sound like BS to you?  I got my facts from the same place you got your facts about "you know the relationship is about money".  I just pulled them out of my arse 

I am a 60 yo foreigner with a 20 yr old spouse and if the relationship is about money you'll have to tell me what money. There are a HELLUVA lot of younger guys with more money than I've got and she could have any one of them she wants.  Is there anyone out there who knows "Y" and I who would dispute that?

Edited March 8, 2016 by Dave Hounddriver